It starts as soon as you enter a relationship, as soon as you let the world know you are serious, that damn question! The question that everyone is dying to know the answer to! I mean I’m guilty, I’ll definitely hold my hands up as I do it too. Doesn’t make it any less annoying, I don’t know anyone that wants to be constantly questioned. You guys know what question I’m talking about don’t you…right?
When are you having a baby then? When are you starting a family?
I’ve been blessed with two amazing little ladies, granted I would have loved a son as well I’ve never hidden that fact. In fact when I was pregnant with my first I wanted a boy sooooo badly, like so badly. Thinking about it now I was actually a little disappointed to be having a girl at first, I got over that very quickly and became super excited to be having her.
It was not even days after having her, in fact I think I probably got asked whilst I was still pregnant with my first, it hard to gauge when you’re going to have another baby though…
When’s the next one? When are you having baby number two?
I remember whilst I was pregnant with my first, I wanted 5 kids. Yep 5! I had a really easy and straight forward pregnancy and always said I was happy to do it all again 4 more times. This quickly changed when my daughter was born. She was so perfect and made me feel so complete; I actually didn’t feel like I needed anymore children. So we decided that would have one more, to create our cute little family of 4. That way our first would have a companion, now in hindsight. If at the time of having our first, we’d had know this was our plan I think I would have had them really close together.
Being our only children, I feel like it would have been perfect for them to be really close in age. It may have made things harder at the time for us, but in the long run things would have been easier. Instead we waited 3 and half years to have the next one, now this still isn’t a massive gap and as the years go on it will get smaller and smaller.
They say the second is always more of a handful than the first; I’m going to say she was sent to make sure we didn’t have any more children haha! Now my second pregnancy was still pretty straight forward and my labour was amazing. It was the first year that I struggled with, the sleep deprivation and the constant feeding.
You can read about my breastfeeding experience here.
My Family is Complete – Two kids is enough for us!
It was somewhere in those 3 years before I got pregnant with my second, we made the decision that would only be having one more. We had many reasons for this, having children puts many restraints and restrictions on a relationship and we basically wanted to keep these to a minimum. Sticking with two means we can really enjoy them, and hopefully be able to treat them to lots of holidays, restaurants and days out as they are growing up without worrying too much about money.
I feel so blessed with my family, I have an amazing partner and two perfect little girls and for that I am forever thankful. I wouldn’t change it for the world and I don’t think I will ever change my mind, I am 99.9% sure that we will not be having another baby.
There a certain stages that I am sad to never experience again, like the joy of a positive pregnancy test. Those little flutter’s of the baby moving in your stomach or the cuddles from a newborn; but I have yet to experience so much more with my girls. Different levels of joy and pleasure that I have never felt, and for that I am extremely excited. My girls are now 5 and 17 months, I love watching them grow, they have already formed such a close bond.
So it doesn’t matter how many times someone says to me, but what if you have your boy? I will not be having another child, and I know they never say never…but at this point in my life I feel like I can say never…